I agree with you, mostly, but I think it's less about bodily autonomy, and more that it's fucked up to deny women their trauma that comes from so many things, including socialization, and for these anons to deny that very real systems exist to discourage psychological and emotional independence (try to explain separatism on the basis of preserving your health to a psychologist and they'll treat you like you're an evil wackjob that needs to be sectioned for the safety of others), and it's fucked up to act like women aren't abused (sexually, physically, psychologically, etc) by their family members and their "support system", or are just more emotionally and mentally unsure of themselves. Like their vulnerabilities and situations don't matter because... they're from the first world? So they can't possibly try to mitigate harm or try to feel out their situations or lives, or figure out their desires fully? I think separatism should be the goal, but pulling the "WELL I DID IT AT 19, THEY'RE JUST WEAK AND PATHETIC FOR NOT ALSO DOING IT" is pretty sad and stupid, especially if you claim to be very aware of these very real structures that exist, yes, even in the first world, to disempower women and destroy or completely prevent the development of any mental fortitude. It's a lot to buck, a lot to come to terms with, and I think it's insane to deny women understanding for taking time to get there, especially when these anons don't know their circumstances, and they're just different people, full stop. There's also a major issue here with being "the right type of victim". The "right" victim leaves, the right victim has a backbone, the right victim never gives up, when victimized people just don't always work that way. Some people just have no fight, some people don't have the will that these other women have. That doesn't mean that they're pathetic. It depends on the person and the situations, and I'm not really speaking about women who are directly abused physically by their men, more women who have been beaten down by life and are in relationships that, while not typically "abusive", still aren't serving them.
Why literally just get pissy and resentful of people who agree with you, admit they don't trust males, don't owe you anything and who aren't hurting you, and most importantly, are on your side? IDGI. Women in relationships with men being assholes to other women is an entirely different topic. The entitlement, and the withholding of understanding, is very stupid. You can't will people to do what you want. Their best bet is to encourage it by being supportive, not to sow division and resentment.