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Do you keep your male family close? Anonymous 09/08/2020 (Tue) 14:57:27 No. 1984
I feel like this a a big divide, do you stay close with your male family? I'm seen some radfems say yes and then get attacked for being naive. Personally I don't, they're fine to my face and sometimes help pay for stuff, but I don't enjoy being around them for too long, or telling them anything personal. They're not horrible but I just don't trust them.
All I have is brothers and my dad and I keep them at a distance. Dad helps me out but he's irritating, doesn't listen to anything I say, talks over me, then acts like I'm stupid half the time when he does listen. Not to mention he use to be abusive before I was born so I don't think that highly of him. I cut off one brother for being a complete piece of shit. I think my other brother has some type of autism and still lives at home. I try to he nice to him but he hardly wants to talk, he's a cuck so I don't really care. I tried to be close with all of them at one time but it's pointless because they never change. When my mother was alive she was fucking horrible and controling. Whole family kinda sucks.
>>1985 >he's a cuck so I don't really care what does that even mean?
>>1986 He's married but puts up with his wife's infidelity. I feel like this was a term of emasculation designed to replace 'fag' when the latter fell out of fashion.
>>1987 i know how it's used, but i mean, why say that you don't care about speaking to him because he's a cuck? like, how well my male family members perform masculinity is not an issue for me at all. just kind of weird to be like "i don't care about having a bond with this person because they're a cuck". there's a million legitimate complaints i have of my male family members - them not adequately upholding masculinity would never be one of them. just seems strange.
>>1987 >>1988 Not wife, but long term girlfriend. Basically he let her cheat on him, make cringy posts about how she needs to stay with him and even made a video slideshow with pictures of them telling her to stay with him. Cuck was the closest word I can think of to describe him without getting into too much detail. It's not so much about him not being "masculine" more like he has a history of letting women use him and ignoring signs that he should end relationships. I told him several times how these women view him and given him advice to try to help him. He ignores my family when we try to help him. I'd like him to have a happy relationship and life so him never listening to anyone for years has made me not care. My parents have told me he goes to the houses of the girls who break up with him and sits in his car, I don't even know what to think of that. I think he's harmless but still scary.
I guess the closest mate family member that I have a personal relationship with is probably my older brother, even then I just kinda hangout with him sometimes or call him for a couple favors when I need him and even when were together we really don't talk about personal stuff, like he hates himself and hates everybody else and I honestly though he would have killed himself years ago his current plan seems to be purposely never wanting to connect with anyone and just waiting to die and live his sad lonely life, I honestly feel bad for him sometimes but its the way he is, at least he's not out hurting women
I have a racist brother who suddenly converted to Orthodox Christianity after years of being indifferent to it and thinking church is boring. He's clearly an edgy contrarian, and is affiliated with an anti-modernist sect of Catholicism. He will rant about abortion but will laugh about George Floyd's death, failing to see the irony in that. Also thinks both the Armenian genocide and holocaust were deserved. Whats funny is part of what influenced him to take Orthodox Christianity seriously is our cousin who tried to shill Jonathan Pageau to me. Also doesn't care that my brother has beliefs like this, but spergs when I say I support abortion and that I don't want to get married. His wife has also called me selfish for not wanting screeching spawns. They're also around 10 years older than me, lol. My dad used to be abusive when I was younger, but tries to make up for it now. Safe to say, that I will ditch my whole family once I can move out; it's proving to be hard though, coming from a background that stresses "family values" and shit.
>>2080 They sound so toxic, ugh. Definitely best to stay away from all of these people. Hope you can get out soon, anon.
My dad died when I was young, later found out he was verbally and emotionally abusive to my mom and a nasty drunk. Can't say I feel I missed out on that relationship. I knew him on and off as a kid when I visited him during vacations and always found his overall affect mopey and depressed. I know he went through some shit as a kid, but so did my mom. It was no excuse to use her as a scapegoat. My grandfather is genuinely kind, has always cared for me and supported me without expecting me to follow a certain path or gender norms. Just wants me to be happy In a lot of ways he took the place of my dad in a far healthier way than my "real" one ever could have. He's on the traditional side and goes on right-aligned political rants sometimes, but at least in his case, he doesn't actually act on them on force his opinions on others. I can say I'm not into it and he'll stop, and he listens to me even if he doesn't always agree. Wish more men were like him honestly.
ngl i don't. I put up a facade about it though. my brother used to be a nightmare to me growing up and my dad treated me like something of a golden child, possibly because he was post-divorce and didn't really have to be involved in raising me. my other siblings have much worse histories with him. but now my brother has flipped and somehow become super loving and nice towards me, and yet I've seen him act hostile, controlling and demanding towards my parents. so I don't really trust what might be going on with him. I totally get being pissed at our parents and feeling owed for a shitty upbringing, but I get manipulator mental illness vibes from my brother about it. I also have the running incest fear about him, not that he has really given me a specific reason to believe he has that problem, it's just that nothing surprises me about men anymore and I have a constant vigilance about such things at this point. my dad is now tranquilized on psych meds 24/7 so I don't think he's likely to give a shit about much of anything anymore i almost feel a guilt because neither of them have any idea just how distant I really feel


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