I used to be very reluctant like that. It wasn't because I had a single moid in my life I considered a swell fellow, it was because I was feeling defensive about my het friends and relatives, I also have no lesbians/bi in my circles. It's hard to believe in het privilege when they have to support financially their abusive moids as well as feed the kids, get shit for being neglectful shitty moms and "entitled mommies" all the time and all that. It's not like they were told at 18 "ok, so there's your choice
> Prince Charming (+ Gold, - Karma)
> Radical Sisterhood (+ Karma, - Gold)
" and choose the evil option and the way things are around here, you are factually way better off alone, but the sheer peer and cultural pressure doesn't want you alone. Sekhmet in particular seems very bent on the idea that if not every then most het women are living the white picket fence dream, live on their man's dime, all that, and any het women's problems are whining about not being rewarded enough for concious betrayal of sisterhoodland. It's just bollocks.
But I got into it through structural critique later. In 99.9% of situations the society in general will be more approving of you if you admit to having a long-term male fuckbuddy. You will benefit from a man's incomeand\or inherittance quite often, at least the implication is always such. You will be generally considered more "normal" if you are married even if you are a fucking wreck of a human. You will be shat on for raising kids without a man.
But I'd say cultural reward in many modern places is way more tangible, if not the only one, than financial one, but I've been told this is comphet rhetoric, and so it's lesbophobic and I don't understand anything anymore.