I personally don't really believe the "wife emotionally abuses husband" stories at this point. Because in order to emotionally abuse someone you need an ounce of power over them and for them to give a flying fuck about what you think.
In many countries, even not strictly third-world ones, a wife doesn't have any tangible power, or protection may he "return the favor" tenfold. And more importantly, most husbands don't actually give a flying fuck what does the woman he lives with think, especially about him.
Every man I've known whose wife is a real piece of work wouldn't even think to leave, but not because his self-esteem is systematically destroyed, but because he can't be assed to cook and clean for himself, remarrying is too much work even if he has a 20yo lover or two. It's just the body his p*ssy is attached to makes unpleasant noises constantly, so he'll sit it out in the garage until dinner.
A lot of times it is also an excuse to beat the shit out of her and/or a result of his past bullshit. I know an old couple or two where the man is a laid back friendly guy and the woman is a nasty control freak. And then it turns out he cheated, beat her, neglected responsibilities etc. when younger and more energetic, back when she couldn't really leave too. Grand-kids love him and hate her, and one can't blame them now, of course.
A child and a dependent is a whole other thing, of course. The worst case of grown female-on-male abuse I've seen is an alcoholic old woman who was a legal caretaker of a nearly paralyzed young man. Physical, emotional abuse, neglect, drinking the money away, all of it. It's a miracle he outlived her by far.
And unless a father is actually making an effort to limit an abusive mother's access to the kids, he's an accomplice in my eyes anyway. In 95% of the cases he's got the power to do so, and in most of those cases, he won't. He'd rather just do something nice so the kids know he's the best daddy and just leave the kids for mommy T-Rex to torment.
And then, MRA's have no fucking business using abusive mothers to their defense, since so fucking many women have kids they hate just because they "must" and because it increases their social status, and many are obsessed with their sons because they want the man's power. So, plenty of abusive moms make their daughters into servants and punch-bags for their precious boys. Feminists aren't the ones who made this happen. Girls typically suffer more at the hands of abusive mothers to begin with. Girls don't even typically outgrow their mothers enough to punch back due to puberty.
Abusive mothers and wives aren't a problem to MRA's at a social level, they want you to breed rabidly if you're correct skin-color no matter who you really are. MRA's don't want to ensure children's safety, or care about their own kids. Or, you know, care what their wives think if they get their dinner and status. MRA's are full of shit. Those women are a problem to us, but a tool to them.