> i still don't see how that sounds like shilling by quoting something that's ridiculous.
I've dealt with many trolls, so I apologize if I read too much into what you posted.
> it's always damaging, it's just about how many precautions you want to take to mitigate that damage. you're always engaging in a damaging action imo.
I disagree with that and explained why.
> the post i was responding to >>391 even literally makes mention of the fact that there are observable physiological changes after first time anal sex.
Yes, a quote from a forensics textbook in Anatomy & Trauma makes this claim: "commonly there are changes in the normal anatomy, and the extent of such changes is dependent upon the following factors." The key point is that it mentions numerous variable factors.
> by definition it's damaging, it's certainly not what our bodies are meant for. tearing is basically an inevitability as well, even if precautions are taken. this is not "safe". ffs, anuses tear from just normally taking shits and people develop painful conditions as a result. so no, shoving a dick up your butt will never be "safe", it just can be unsafe or very unsafe.
I agree that the human anorectal region is highly unsuited for many all-too-common receptive activities due to its fragility. I just think you go a bit too far by pushing the absolute (100% guarantee of damage) when the truth may be closer to the relative (there are numerous variables to consider).
I understand where you are coming from, but I try to be objective. I have dealt with many people who take positions approaching the polar opposite of yours. So, you might understand why I look at your claims with a bit of skepticism. Know that we are on the same side: if you have good supporting evidence, I would like to see it.
> my ex made me do anal that just hurt like hell for an entire two hours and as expected I did not cum
That is terrible. What someone from the other side would tell you is that you and he "did it wrong." Refer back to what I wrote in >>391
. Ignorance, especially willful ignorance, is a major part of the problem. So are (self-)destructive inclinations such as sexual sadism disorder, sexual masochism disorder, and antisocial personality disorder (hence the inclusion of quotes about them in Trends & Associations).
However, the biggest problem may be something else entirely: the common denigration and undervaluation of the human anus, one of our most important body parts. Since it sometimes (often) is disgusting, it is very easy and very common for many people to be prejudiced against it. So, consider fighting back against "lol butthurt," "he's an asshole," and similar remarks which serve to reinforce that prejudice, and which diminish and devalue the anus and anorectal problems. Perhaps people should consider putting "don't insult the anus / downplay anorectal problems" out there sometimes.